Young widows and widowers
Young Widow Dating: Love Again, Your Way
For widows and widowers in their twenties, thirties and forties, who are nowhere near done with life.
- Free to join
- 18+ only
Being widowed young is lonely in a particular way. Your friends are planning weddings and arguing about school districts; you are dealing with a death certificate, a mortgage in one name and, perhaps, small children asking where their dad or mom went. When you start to think about dating again, the apps your friends use feel built for a different life. Date A Widower is a place where being widowed in your thirties or forties is ordinary.
You are not the only one
Most people picture widows and widowers as retirees, but many of our members are younger than that. Among our women members in the USA, 54% are under 45, and the biggest single group is aged 35 to 44. You will find people here who were widowed in their twenties and thirties, who are raising children alone, and who know what it is like when people say "but you're so young" as if that makes it easier.
What makes young widowed dating different
Your life is still very much in motion. You may be working full time, parenting full time, and grieving at the same time. You may also want things a widow of seventy does not: more children, a partner to raise yours with, decades together. And people your age who have not been through a loss may not know what to say, or may assume you will never be over it. Here you can say plainly that you loved someone, that you lost them, and that you would like to build a future anyway.
Dating with young children
If you have young children, time is short and they come first. A dating site that lets you message in the evenings after bedtime helps. So does being clear on your profile that you are a parent. Hold back on introductions until a relationship is serious and steady. Our guide to telling your children you are dating covers young children, teenagers and adult children.
Your pace, not anyone else's
Some people will tell you it is too soon; others will tell you that you are young and should get back out there. Neither knows. Our guide to when to start dating after losing a spouse may help you decide for yourself. When you are ready, our profile tips are a good place to begin.
Meeting people your age
Set your age range and distance, and the daily matches will suggest members near you who fit. You can say whether you are looking for a long-term partner, companionship or friendship first. Joining is free, and you can browse for as long as you like before sending a message.
More members your age than you might think
How our women members in the USA split by age. More of them are 35 to 44 than any other age.
- Under 3514%
- 35 to 4440%
- 45 to 5430%
- 55 to 6412%
- 65 and over4%
Your young widow dating questions, answered
Is there a dating site for young widows?
Yes. Date A Widower welcomes widowed singles of every adult age, and many of our women members are under 45.
How do I explain being widowed young on a first date?
Briefly and plainly: one sentence is enough. Here, your date will already understand.
Should I say I have children on my profile?
Yes. It saves time and attracts people who are happy to date a parent.
Is it too soon to date?
Only you can judge. Readiness matters more than any number of months.